Two H.A.R.B.O.R.s – the storm and the shore

When safety shatters, our bodies reach for rescue.

The first H.A.R.B.O.R. describes the storm inside—the protective patterns that kept you alive when betrayal shattered safety:
Hypervigilance, Abandonment, Rupture, and Betrayal-Oriented Response.
These are not failures; they are proof your nervous system was trying to protect you.

The Storm (Protective Response)

  • Hypervigilance: staying alert so you’re never blindsided again.
  • Abandonment: feeling unseen or left, even when not alone.
  • Rupture: the break where trust once lived.
  • Betrayal-Oriented Response: surviving first, feeling later.

The Shore (Healing Path)

  • Halt: pause the panic and breathe.
  • Acknowledge: name what hurts without minimizing it.
  • Restore: rebuild safety inside your body.
  • Build: small steps that strengthen trust again.
  • Open: allow support at your own pace.
  • Rise: live from wholeness, not from the wound.